Her New Deal

From the category archives:

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I’ve never really trusted doctors.
As a kid, I used to get searing pain in my upper back. I was incredibly active–I trained several days a week in Tae Kwon Do, and I even won the state championship in sparring. So yes, active. I saw at least 4 doctors for that pain, and was prescribed everything [...]

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My miscarriage and Ted Kennedy

by Her on April 8, 2010

Most of the time I am okay.
Truly content, even.
But then I have days like today–days where the tiniest of things trigger the darkest of emotions. It was nothing much. Our landlord asked us in an email if we wanted to stay here another month or if we wanted to go ahead and find a new [...]

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Listed: Hair and (not so good) baby news

by Her on March 19, 2010

1. I got my hair cut. It is short. I hated it, then I turned to Twitter, and Twitter made me feel a lot better. Thank you!
I’ll probably go back and forth with the curls and the straightening. I like how low maintenance it seems, because I usually have to fight with my hair to [...]

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Today

by Her on March 17, 2010

Today is the 18th.
I let myself wallow a bit on the 17th (okay, okay, this whole week), but I think I am more ready to move on now. A lot has changed in a month. We finally brought up our alarm clock to get on a regulated schedule, which is pretty big, considering I’ve been [...]

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The names that were

by Her on March 14, 2010

Yesterday I was thinking about the names we had come up with for our babies. We obviously didn’t know if they were boys or girls, so we had one of each ready. We loathed the idea of referring to them as ‘the baby’ both times.
One of my big pet peeves is when people talk about [...]

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More miscarriage waiting

by Her on March 11, 2010

I’m terrible at focusing and waiting.
Absolutely terrible.
In college I went to see the school counselor because I was getting so anxious about the smallest things, and it was getting to be over the top. He decided that I had ADHD, and that my anxiety was stemming from that. I couldn’t focus, but needed to, thus [...]

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The grief diet

by Her on March 2, 2010

What I am going to say will sound absurd.
I lost more than ten pounds (twice) eating donuts and drinking Dr. Pepper.
After the January miscarriage, I lost a lot of my will to eat, but it never took much for The Geek to convince me to eat donuts at the very least. That’s what I did [...]

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The case for March

by Her on March 1, 2010

It’s March now.
It came up on me fast–something about moving puts all of time on an accelerator, and my life is suddenly fundamentally different now than it was one month ago.
One month ago, today, I was going through one of the top five most nightmarish evenings of my life. I had already started spotting, but [...]

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